It’s always on your mind. Now learn how girls feel about doing it morning, noon, and night.
Sure, you may be game to go at it 24/7, but all guys have heard those two most dreaded words: “Not now.”
Everyone is tuned to enjoy sex the most at different times of the day, say sex therapists all around the world. Our natural biorhythm determines when we’re in the mood, and there are benefits we can reap whether the sun is shining or the moon is out. For most of us, the idea of sex is often enough to spur us into action and, as news reports have proven, not even godmen are above it.
So, we felt it was time to list a few compelling arguments (backed by science!) to convince your girl that it should always be sex o’clock. Use this information and get her excited in time for V-Day, and beyond. Because, as we’ve been saying for a while, it’s not just about one day.
Rise And Shine
Getting out of bed is hard, but so are we when we wake up. The reason we men tend to wake up physically ready to go is because blood circulation to the penis increases overnight. Instead of tucking it in your waistband and shuffling to the shower, be up-front and tell your girl how much you want her. And you don’t need to be veiled about it, either. Just tell her right out.
“I know it’s biology, but nothing puts me in the mood than feeling my boyfriend when he’s completely hard,” says a 27-year-old fashion marketing expert. “I love crawling on top of him and going at it like crazy.” A lot of women feel the same way, and it’s only natural for your girl to feel the same way. Just keep it in your boxers if she’s been unwell. Or if your relatives are visiting.
It’s also a fact that men’s testosterone levels peak after a night of rest, which means you have more energy and can last longer. Plus, you’re already in the bedroom, so you might as well make the most of it. Don’t worry if you stress about time, advise relationship counsellors in the know. The rush of getting out the door is a huge turn-on for many couples.
People who prefer midday sex are those who can take the time to get themselves into a very relaxed state. It’s like taking a spa day or something like that—literally. Getting your girl to orgasm releases chemicals that boost levels of oestrogen, the hormone that keeps her hair shiny and her skin wrinkle-free. So if your lady loves being pampered, go on and indulge her in bed. Tell her, and then get her to climb on top of you.
“There’s nothing more calming than spending an entire Sunday playing around in bed, in a bath, wherever,” says Aditi*, 29. “Why flip channels when you can flip between napping and making out with each other?” It doesn’t have to be limited to the weekend, of course.
Midday sex is also perfect for adventurous types. Since traditionally we think of sex happening in bed at night, daring to sneak in some lunch-break nookie can be a thrill. Your heart rate and adrenaline will be rushing, making the release extra intense. We have just one word for you, quickie. And that’s normally as exciting for her as it is for you.
Is your girl always cranky after work? Join the club. Instead of hiding in the next room, why not suggest “lying down together” for a bit? Since orgasms release the feel-good chemical, oxytocin, some sweet lovin’ may be all she needs to brighten her mood and change a night of nagging to a night of, well, whatever you’re into. It’s science-endorsed, so you know it’s true.
“After a bad day, I usually change into track-pants and watch some sitcoms on TV to forget about work, chores and all that,” admits Janet*, 28. “But one night my fiancé bent down and started kissing me as I lay on the couch. At first it was annoying, but once he got down there I just gave in, leaving me feeling completely blissed out.”
Of course, be ready for a ton of cranky if she’s brought work home. In that case, give her a nice shoulder rub. That’ll set the mood. Don’t know how? Hold the muscles around her neck and gently knead in small circular motions. Move to the spine and gently trace it with your thumb, applying pressure. Then, lean in and kiss her. Game on!
Coming home from hours of drinking and flirting is usually an invitation for a wild hook-up. “Most women find nighttime sex exciting because that’s when any neuroses you have are muted,” says a well-known behavioural expert. If your gal is reluctant to get it on before work or when your roommate is watching television or molesting his console in the next room, save the sex for when the sun has truly set. By which we mean that she’s comfortable enough to be at your place. If you have your own place, just put away any unwashed undies and socks. And get a dimmer or a couple of candles. Most girls love ’em.
You probably already know that dark chocolate always helps—as does a bottle of wine—so keep a couple of bars (and bottles) around.
Nina*, a 26-year-old medical expert, says her inhibitions are shed just as fast as her clothing once the clock strikes midnight. “Any hesitations about experimenting in bed are completely gone after dark,” she shares. “It’s when I’m ready for anything and kind of when my inner freak comes out to play.” Your girl may not share this randy-clock moment, but that does not mean she won’t be up for it.
As you’ve seen, science is on your side when it comes to a night of passion and if you’re in a place that’s cold, it’s added bonus. You couldn’t ask for more, except maybe the courage to ask a girl out. So go hard and go crazy, and then enjoy those z’s. Sex releases sleep-inducing endorphins that will help the two of you knock out after the action, giving you the energy for another romp in the morning.