Hard Times

Though I’ve had a rollicking sex life with a girl for the three years we’ve been together, I’ve lately been unable to hold an erection. Is she no longer turning me on? Or do I need medical attention? Andrew, Mumbai



Your sex life is as healthy as you are. This encompasses psychological factors as much as physical ones. So, you might just be having low-quality erections due to outside stressors like work or paying bills. Or, you could be having health issues like high blood pressure, diabetes or a low testosterone level. The issue has nothing to do with your level of attraction to her, but explore if you’ve been having problems with the relationship. No? Head to the physician.