Faking It

How do I know if she’s having an orgasm? Are there any signs? Indraneel, Kolkata



Women will often recall some of their greatest sexual experiences with no mention of orgasm, so try not making that the goal. Anyone can fake an orgasm, but the problem with faking it is that it pushes women further from understanding what pleases their partner and builds a wall around pleasure and sexual bliss. Before and during orgasm, a keen observer might pick up on changes in breathing, heartbeat and skin colour. Others can feel muscular contractions or notice details like the clitoris retracting prior to orgasm. Instead of studying her like a college anatomy experiment, it’s best to have an open, honest conversation about orgasms and your sex life. The best lovers are those that can communicate.