Make her squeal with passion with super-simple sex moves.
When Lavanya*, 30, first made a sex tape with her boyfriend, she felt as if they were up to no good—and she loved it. “It was like we were doing something bad and might get caught, like having sex in your uncle’s guest room,” she says with excitement.
Sure, making a sex tape nowadays can be as easy as hitting record on your iPhone, but taking the time to savour the action of filming it still makes for a mind-blowing experience. Plus, the thrills can last long after the camera stops rolling. “Watching it together afterward is hot,” says Shikha*, 29, who’s made several tapes. “Each time we hit ‘record,’ our desires become more in tune.”
Ready for your close-up? Read on to learn what you need to know before getting carnal on-camera.
Get Into Character
Build up your girl’s excitement by shopping for a costume together, suggests Dana B. Meyers, cofounder of online sex-toy shop BootyParlor.com. “Playing dress-up will help her press past any current boundaries,” she says.
Next, encourage some tamer on-camera activities, like a racy photoshoot, says Aditi*, 28. “Try an at-home boudoir session. Your girl poses in her lingerie while you play the role of the photographer.”
Your girl may even want to try taping herself solo first to build up to the real thing. “When I was doing long-distance with my boyfriend, I decided to make a little movie of just myself for him with the webcam on my laptop,” says Monica*, 28. “Knowing that I was capturing myself on-camera made me come so hard I couldn’t wait to try it together when he visited.”
And while all worked out fine for once-unknown Kim Kardashian, most women may have concerns about immortalising themselves doing the nasty. Even though Aakansha*, 27, loves the idea of making a sex tape with her boyfriend, she does have reservations. “If we break up, will he put it on the Internet?” she frets. “Because then it’s out there for good.”
So before you hit record, discuss what you’ll do with the footage. Will you watch it once, then delete it? Or do you plan to incorporate it into your sexual rotation? Having a set plan will make your girl more comfortable.
Prep the Set
Your XXX-rated home movie most likely won’t have a crew or editors like real porn productions do—but that’s not a bad thing. Bright, harsh lights can add to the pressure. Plus, in our age of high def, you don’t necessarily want to see every detail. So just bring in some candles and add props.
“I love rose petals or feathers, which draw out the foreplay,” says Lavanya. “And keep a chair nearby in case you want to use it to have sex upright.”
When you’re ready to film, prep your partner so she’s craving you before switching the camera on. “When my boyfriend and I finally made our tape, I was turned on way before we even got started with the anticipation of trying something new,” Monica says. Pop open a bottle of wine, kiss her neck, touch her gently, and soon enough you’ll have her begging you to press “that button.”
Your costar’s confidence is key, so tell her how great she looks and feels. “When I saw how excited my boyfriend was, all my insecurities fell away,” says Monica. Still, it helps to find a position that flatters her assets. “Sit in a chair, girl on top, so the camera can go either behind you or in front,” she suggests. “In bed, her on top or reverse cowgirl works best.”
Above all, don’t take the experience too seriously, says Aditi. “Don’t give the camera a douchey wink,” she warns. “No girl will ever make a sex tape with you again.” Got that? Now, buy a decent camera.